Being stuck in a rut can seem suffocating, especially when the rut is stinky and unpleasant. If you are struggling to create a change in your life that’s both impactful and lasting, this post will guide you to turn that around. Here are some ways you can follow to transform your life and create a new destiny ~ Ed.
If
you have a tiny bit of interest in the matters of personal growth and
self-development, you must be familiar with the impact your thoughts can have
on your life. Let’s get something straight. You do not send out your thoughts
into thin air. Every single thought in your head has a chemical reaction
associated with it.
Let’s
say, you have a boardroom presentation, the next day and you find yourself
thinking of a fearful thought about it. In a split second, an entire network of
neurons gets switched on in your brain, and suddenly a myriad of not-so-pretty
pictures start popping in your head. And the next thing you know an uneasy
current of anxiety runs through your body.
What
did you just do? You made your imaginary thoughts so real in your mind that
your body begins preparing for an actual experience (ahead of the event).
That’s how powerful is the connection between your mind and body.
Now,
why is this connection important for us to understand? Simply because the way
you think and feel on a daily basis creates your state of being. A state of
being is a familiar mental-emotional state, which becomes an important part of
our identity.
Often,
human beings spend years memorizing a state of being, by being coaxed into the
same thinking-feeling loop, much like a hamster in a wheel. The worrying bit
about creating a memorized state of being is that our feelings are no longer
caused by our thoughts.
Why is it so
hard to change your state of being
This
inherently implies that years of unconscious habits and thought patterns have
conditioned the body to a point that it doesn’t need any external stimuli to
produce the chemicals it has been producing for years.
In
short, our thoughts and feelings have become one. Now, if you would try to
generate a different set of chemicals by, let’s say by adopting new habits or
thinking new thoughts, it is most likely to turn into a rebellious teenager and
go into a chemical chaos.
If
you make a deal with yourself that you’re no longer going to pursue an unwanted
habit, a day goes by and you feel really good. You think, ‘wow! this is
actually working’. However, sadly, your body’s cells aren’t feeling so good. No
wonder, so many of our efforts of losing weight, feeling confident, or quitting
alcohol, turn to dust every single time.
Trying
to change your
thought and emotional patterns are like going through drug withdrawal. You
need persistence.
The key lies in changing your “identity”
The
good news is that you can unlearn these unhealthy thought patterns and create
new desirable ones. How? By becoming SOMEONE else. This might go against the
popularly held notion of ‘being yourself’. I know you must like some of your
qualities; however, you’ve got to admit that sometimes you do wish you could do
better in certain areas of your life.
You
might excel in your profession, but you could be facing issues in building
meaningful social connections. You might find yourself feeling envious of the
popular guy, who seems to be getting along with everyone with immense ease and
comfort.
Well,
in that case, being yourself isn’t the best way to go about it. Is it? The idea
is to become a much superior version of yourself so that you can master every
area of your life.
6 Ways to Truly Transform Your
Life
This
guide is fabricated for creating a lasting transformation and an innate sense
of empowerment in you. The strategies outlined here are simple, but I would not
say that they are easy. However, once internalized, the process can transform
you from the very core of your being.
Create Your Vision
In
order to transform yourself into this awesome person you want to be, you need
to have a clearer picture of them in your mind’s eye. List down in detail, the
qualities that the person would have. Hold the vision of that individual in
your mind. Look at how they think, feel, speak, and act every waking hour of
their lives.
Meditate
Once
you have a perfect vision of your ideal self, meditate upon it. Sit with your
eyes closed for 10-15 minutes in a day and envision yourself as transforming
into that person. This process can also be called as priming of the mind.
It
might feel uncomfortable in the beginning because your body is not used to
feeling happier, confident, empowered or whatever positive emotion you wish to
instill in yourself. Therefore, focus and persistence is the key while doing
this particular meditation. Make a deal with yourself that you would not get up
from the meditation until you get into this whole new state of being.
Mental Rehearsal
It
is not enough to be your ideal self during those few minutes of meditation. In
order to create a real change, you need to continuously rehearse your ideal
self throughout the day. This requires a great deal of self-awareness.
You
need to make sure that you don’t let a single thought pass by your awareness,
that doesn’t align with your ideal self. Every time a thought pops in your
head, ask yourself, does this belong in my future, and do I need to carry it
forward? If the answer is no, take a pause and mentally return to being your
ideal self. Every time you accomplish this feat, you are going to break the
hard-wired patterns in your brain and wire a new version of yourself.
If
you commit to thinking greater than your body, your body will gradually be
forced to follow the footsteps of your mind.
Do Uncomfortable Things
A
great way to pull your mind out of your body is to do something uncomfortable
(but helpful) on a daily basis. We all have that long list of goals, shoved
somewhere in the corner of a cabinet. The action you need to take to achieve those
goals might feel uncomfortable because your body is accustomed to a certain set
of behaviours.
Let’s
say you want to land your dream job and you know in your heart that you are
perfectly capable of it. However, if there is no urgency and you are habituated
into being a procrastinator, you might push it back for a long time. If you
find yourself in this position, ask yourself, will your ideal-self postpone
something of such immense importance?
Remember,
thinking and feeling like your ideal self only bears fruit if you ‘act’ like
them on a moment by moment basis. Therefore, it is important to get out of your
head and take action, no matter how uncomfortable that might feel at the
moment.
Think Greater Than You Feel
As
I said earlier, any change is uncomfortable in the beginning. Your body will do
everything in its power to keep you anchored to the past. In your weakest
moment, do not talk yourself out of greatness.
The
key is to think greater than you feel. At times, you might feel, ‘Well, this
doesn’t feel right, or this is too hard’. In such a scenario, it feels easy to
give up and go back to your old self. In these moments, remember that it is
your body which is ‘feeling’ that way.
To
break the old patterns of unwanted habits, your mind needs to think greater
than your body is feeling.
Be Kind to Yourself
No
matter how little progress you think you are making; it is very important that
you are generous and loving towards yourself. Every significant change requires
time and patience. A seed doesn’t grow into a giant tree in one day.
Look
back and introspect how far have you come in this journey. Most of the time, we
fail to see the progress we have made, probably because it becomes such an
integrated part of ourselves. So, make sure to reward yourself on every ‘tiny
progress’ you make in your journey.
Wrapping it up
So
many people aspire to create a new destiny but find themselves unable to
overcome the defeating thought patterns they get identified with so intimately.
If you crave unknown adventures and dream of new possibilities, you need to
overcome your body and stop paying visits to your past.
It
might take a great deal of courage, will power and awareness, because of years
and years of piled-up conditioning patterns in your body and mind. But if you
can, it would all be worth the effort. It is a pity to live an ever-evolving
life, thinking exactly the same thoughts, feeling exactly the same way, and
doing exactly the same things over and over again.
How
can you change anything outside of you, if you don’t change anything inside of
you?
Over to you
If
you truly come to terms with the idea that your thoughts have something to do
with your destiny, would you let any unwanted thought slip past your awareness?
Wouldn’t it feel great to know that you are creating your destiny every second
of your life?
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About the author
Shifali Gupta. I'm a
professional content writer and an avid blogger. Over the last few years, I
have developed a keen interest in the matters of personal growth, financial
freedom, spirituality and joyful living. I blog at Life of Dance. The inspiration for my
blog's name comes from my perception of life as a cosmic dance, and through my
blog posts I hope to share some of my secrets that have helped me to be better
aligned to it's magnificent rhythm.
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